Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Love at First Sight

Dear Shayla

Is there really such a thing as "love at first sight"? Do you believe in it or is it "attraction at first sight" I think the first has happened to me. How do I know?

Dear Hopeless Romantic,

         When I was young, (I'd say teenage /early twenties) I definitely believed in love at first sight. It was that belief that kept me in relationships longer than I should have been in. As I grew up, I learned that feeling you get when you have chemistry with someone at first sight is NOT love. It is a combination of lust, desire, infatuation, and hormones being released. People throw the word "Love" around and in their hearts of hearts believe that it's real and its true. Though it might FEEL like it's the real deal, the reality is it's the good feeling chemicals like dopamine and serotonin being released in your brain.  I believe that " Love" is something that you must nurture and takes years to grow. Like a seed which is planted that takes time for it to mature. Love works the same way. If you neglect it, it will wilther and die. If you devote time and attention to it then it can grow into something so amazing between two people.
     There are some people who have claim to have met their "soulmate" at first sight, and if you believe in reincarnation then maybe this could be true if you believe in soul recognition. Whatever the case, only time will tell if it's love or attraction. Personally, I think 90% of the time it's NOT love. Just pure attraction. There is the potential for it to be love, but if you are asking about first sight, then I truly I doubt it.